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How to Deal with Tantrums

Diffusing Toddler Tantrums

We’ve all been there.  You are out in public and your “threenager” sees a colorful package of candy and literally loses their mind.  As they are scrambling to get out of the cart to snatch the candy, your heart races.  You tell them “not today, sweetie” and the meltdown begins.  Shoppers are giving looks of disgust while others dart their eyes away because they feel your struggle.

I feel so much anxiety shopping with my young daughter.  She’s three years old and has a severe speech delay.  Speech delay or not, tantrums in public are stressful.  My toddler has made great strides with her communication, however when she doesn’t get her way she suddenly forgets all the new skills she’s learned.  I’ve experienced the horror of her kicking and screaming in public.  One time her blood curdling scream set off the theft alarm at Sam’s Club.  Yikes!  Still afraid to go back there!

These experiences always have me wondering…Am I doing something wrong?  Could I be doing something better?  

Don’t beat yourself up over tantrums.  My own mom reminded me that tantrums are normal, and there was even a time or two (maybe more) where I embarrassed her in public.

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So what can we do?

It all comes down to how you respond to your child’s tantrum.  Are you getting angry?  Are you trying to understand?  Are you simply walking out of public places to avoid others staring at you?  I know I’ve walked out of grocery stores and other public places because I just didn’t have the energy to deal with it.  But this is a learning process for you and your child.

Taking a Mom Moment & Making Eye Contact

Do not pay attention to the people around you while a meltdown is ensuing.  My daughter and I fly frequently from Salt Lake City to Seattle to visit family.  She’s always very well behaved on the airplane.  However during one flight her ears started bothering her and she lost it for about 20 minutes.  Those 20 minutes felt like 20 hours.  I did my best to console her, gave her gummy snacks and did everything I possibly could to get her ears to pop.  I was so embarrassed when I looked up and saw other passengers giving me annoyed looks.  I told myself, “This is the last time I’m flying!”.  I was horrified.  

As I’ve scoured the internet looking for tips I came cross a few resources to help diffuse meltdowns.  First, taking a moment to stay calm and then proceed to address the situation, and second, engaging in eye contact with your child.  In another scenario (you’re probably thinking wow, this lady’s child throws a lot of fits!) I tried taking a moment to myself to get grounded, then proceed to ask my daughter to “look at me”.  She could feel my calm demeanor and made eye contact with me immediately.  If only I had tried to use this method during our horrific flight, maybe I would have been able to better console her and get her on board with finding solutions to pop her ears.  Children are so connected to our feelings and emotions.  They pick up on things right away.  Going into a tantrum highly anxious or angry projects the same feelings onto them, making it more difficult to concentrate on what you’re telling them.

Using Distractions to Your Advantage

Find a way to calmly talk to your toddler about why the tantrum is happening.  Distract them.  Last week, my daughter threw a fit because I wouldn’t let her run up and down the grocery aisle.  The store was busy.  I picked her up and brought her to the corner of the store and explained I didn’t want her to get lost and in order to stay safe, she needed to ride in the cart.  I reminded her of the other plans we had that day, and we didn’t want this meltdown to end our fun.  Take a moment to bring your child to a secluded place, even using your back to block out others, use eye contact and calming explain your reasoning.  Be sure to back up why they need to stop and what they may lose if they don’t.  (Losing TV or play time!)

Mostly Importantly: Do Not Use Bribes

Bribes are temporary solutions.  I know I’m guilty of this.  Sometimes you just need some peace.  I’ve given my daughter a treat in order to get her to behave during our errands.  This can lead them to believe that if they throw a fit they are going to be rewarded for it.  It will become a cycle and your toddler will start expecting treats for basic behavior.  Stay away from this type of bribing!

Remember you are doing an amazing job as a mom!  Tantrums are tough but they are normal!

What tips do you have for diffusing tantrums?  Share and comment below!

 

     


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Ultimate Back to School Guide

Back to School Guide

Welcome to your Ultimate Back to School Guide!   I know, right?!  Didn’t school just let out for summer?  It feels as if we are just starting to get into a nice summer routine here.  My daughter goes back to school at the end of August, so it is time to start preparing!  Let me know what your family does to get ready for back to school.

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Set a Budget & Clean Out Closets

First things first.  School supplies and clothes can get expensive real fast.  To start, write down your budget for each child.  This will help you stay within your means.  I use a monthly budget planner in order to organize my month.  Something else you can do to get prepared is help your child go through their closet and make a pile of clothing that is too small. Go through last years backpack and take inventory of unused supplies or supplies that are still usable.  That way you know what your child will absolutely need to start off the school year.

Watch for Sales & Shop Clearance

You’re not required to go out and buy everything all at once.  Unless.. you are procrastinating.. but let’s spread this all out 🙂 It will help you stay within the budget you’ve set and you’ll have more time to compare prices and deals.  Check out the Target or Walmart clearance racks.  TJ Maxx and Ross have great finds as well!  You are most likely to find spring/summer clothing on the clearance rack and that is OK!  Summer weather lasts the first month or so of school.  You can also help your child get creative by layering these items throughout the winter! You all know I’m an Amazon lover.  So besides Priming items to your home here are a few other things you MUST try:

  • Download Target’s Cartwheel App- You will find discounts and savings from food, to clothing, and even school supplies!  I use this app every single time I shop at Target.  The savings really add up & you can use the app in conjunction with manufacturer coupons.  Cha-ching!

 

  • EBATES-  Online school shopping this year?  No problem!  This is a huge time saver and still allows you to save money.  Log into your Ebates app or access it from your browser, click on the store you want to shop and it will automatically track your purchase.  You then get rewarded with cash back savings you can redeem later for giftcards and more!  When I’m shopping online this is the very first thing I do.  Join here.  When you sign up and refer friends you will earn $25!

 

  • ThredUp-  The largest online consignment store and thrift shop.  You won’t find junk here!  Most of the items are name brand and discounted at an amazing rate!  I’ve bought Banana Republic tops for about $6.  ThredUp has a kids section with skirts, jeans, and tops ranging in price from $3-$8.  Steal!  Another benefit of ThredUp is they will pay you for your used clothes.  Must be in good condition.  They especially like it if the tags are still on.  I know I’ve bought things for my daughter and she’s grown out of the size before she can even wear it.  Once your child cleans out their closet, send those items over to ThredUp!  Join here & invite your friends!  You both will get $10.

 

Hungry for more Savings?  Try the Dollar Tree!

When we hear “the dollar store” we imagine cheap or poor quality.  At least I used to!  However, this isn’t always the case!  I’ve found Dollar Tree to sell items like Dawn dish soap and even Disney items!  These items are mostly from other stores being overstocked and needed to sell. I decided to set out to my own Dollar Tree to see what items they had for back to school.  This is what I found:  EVERYTHING!  There were more aisles filled with supplies, these were the only shots I could manage to get while shopping with my toddler 🙂

Dollar Tree has an amazing amount of high quality school supplies for $1.  I was able to score a 64 pack of crayons, notebook, and pencils for $1 each.  My preschool aged daughter doesn’t need much for back to school, but I was surprised to find that Dollar Tree also has supplies such as calculators, binders, dividers, scissors, glue, etc.. they had it all!  I learned you can also buy their items online!  This might come in handy if school starts soon- beat the line!  Or even if you have multiple children you need to buy for.  The only requirement is you have to buy a minimum of 4 units.  For example, you have to buy 4 packs of crayons in order to take advantage of online ordering.  Once you proceed to check out you are given the option of free in store pick up or UPS shipping for a fee.

 

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How to Hike With A Toddler

Tips for Hiking with a Toddler

My husband and I were complete beginners when it came to hiking, let alone with a toddler!  What things will we need?  Will she enjoy herself?  On a whim Friday night we set our alarms for 5:30 am for the next day and went to bed.  Saturday morning came to a quick, rough start.  Toddler didn’t understand why we were waking her up so darn early!  The rest of the morning was actually quite fun, but here are a few pointers I wish I would have known beforehand.  Keep reading for tips on how to hike with your toddler!

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Proper Equipment

My toddler is very independent and so I assumed she would love wandering along the trail with us looking at flowers, watching for birds.  Nope.  She wanted nothing to do with the hike (at first).  My husband and I ended up taking turns carrying her on our shoulders.  I felt like I had an amazing work out, although as soon as we got home I started researching hiking carriers for toddlers.  I came across Kelty Kids.  This brand has several different models and we settled on a blue one.  The straps are adjustable, there is a sunshade, and there’s even room on the side to pack away things like first aid kits, snacks, water, etc.  This isn’t a flimsy child carrier, it is amazing quality and durable.  I highly recommend investing in one of these backpacks as the price is worth it!

Change of Clothes

Toddlers are prone to accidents and getting dirty.  We were still potty training my toddler on our first trip, and she had an accident.  We brought back up pull ups and diapers but she had to go without pants!  (not recommended)  Luckily, it was towards the end of our hike.  On our third hike we took it up a notch and hiked to Cecret Lake in Alta, Utah.  You end up at a lake at the end of the trail.  Toddler was so excited.  She got a little close to the water and ended up walking through a bunch of mud.  Her shoe got caught.  She then proceeded to sit down in the mud to get her shoe.  (Face palm).  An extra pair of pants, shirt, socks, underwear, and shoes are essential.  Don’t forget the diapers and wipes if your child isn’t potty trained.  Bring a long a plastic bag to store dirty clothes 🙂

Snacks, Snacks, Snacks!

Water, gatorade, and “toddler trail mix” have been a hit!  I try to make the toddler trail mix interesting by switching it up week to week.  A favorite is a combo of goldfish crackers, dried fruit, and m&m’s.  You can totally customize this to your toddlers likes or even dislikes!  Mine used to hate dried fruit and now she loves it.

Safety

Safety MUST’s: First aid kit, sunscreen, antibacterial wipes (our favorite is by Babyganics), and bug spray.  It’s always good to talk to your child before the trip and explain why we need to bring these things with us.  And let them help you pack.

Entertainment

Let’s be real… children get bored!  They will enjoy the hike but sometimes need a break to switch things up.  Take breaks for snack time and have everyone share their favorite part of the hike so far.  You can also search Pinterest for some fun nature scavenger hunt ideas.  Mine is below.

 

 

I hope this was helpful for someone!  If you have any great hiking tips for kids please leave me a comment!  Also, please enjoy this free printable below 😉 

 

 

 



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